I am 8 days late for my period. This is my first month off of nuvaring and in the past have had a normal cycle for the first month after going off birth control after that my cycle is very irregular 30-90 days between. I have had breast tenderness and had cramping with extremely mild staining last week when I otherwise should have been on my period – staining amounted to very little red blood coloredness in my mucus upon wiping. I have had four negative tests in the last 5 days, however symptoms persist – breast tenderness and cramping off and on. I should add that I am not trying to concieve as my husband had a vasectomy the end of last week and I went off nuvaring one month early because I have had difficulty in the past getting pregnant, don’t have sex often, twice this month – once early on, once later 11 days ago – , required clomid for both of my pregnancies – if this ain’t karma, I don’t know what is! I have read that I should wait at least 19 days after last sex before expecting a reliable test answer, however the anxiety is killing me! Any thoughts or suggestions would be greatly appreciated – while I’m not trying to get pregnant it wouldn’t be the end of the world if I was, it’s just the waiting to know which way I am sux!

One of the most frustrating things an infertile  woman can experience is having a late period and a negative pregnancy test!
It does not matter if you are trying-to-conceive or if you’re trying-not-to-conceive, a late period and recurring negative pregnancy test results can lead to a great deal of stress, worry, confusion, and conjecture on what might be happening…. Am I pregnant? If so, then why the negative test result? If I’m not pregnant, then where is my period?!?

But If you are trying-to-conceive , every time you miss your period, your hopes that you are now finally pregnant go up. You do the pregnancy test with a lot of hope – and lots of prayers. You are scared to do it, because you do not want to get your hopes up, and you are worried that it maybe negative once again . You finally screw up your courage – even if the news is bad, it’s best to know the truth, you tell yourself – and then do the test.

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