After 5 years of trying and one miscarraige?
Thursday, August 12th, 2010 at
8:27 am
I took two pregnancy tests yesterday and both came back positive. YAY! But my problem is this: we want this SO badly, and now, every little stitch (pain) in my belly that I feel, every little slight cramp, I have a miniature panic attack that I am going to lose it. I haven’t even been to the doctor yet. I know I am over-reacting, but I can’t seem to help myself. Any advice?
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please stop worieng as if will only cause you stress and that will cause complication.
can totally relate to you as i tried with my 1st for 3 years then out the blue got caught.i fretted for a long time and was always thinking the worse. most women do but i think we are worse when we’ve been trying for so long. enjoy and please relax as you will be fine and congratulations you will enjoy so much being a mummy xxx
Just stay calm, you need less stress during your pregnancy, not added. Know that nature will take its course and have faith in whatever you believe. Every time you feel an ache or pain, look at it positively. It’s normal, it’s what occurs in your pregnancy! Good luck to you and your mate! Congrads!
First of all Congratulations x
It is only natural to worry, but just try to relax and enjoy your pregnancy. Everyone experiences aches and pains which are normal, you must not stress and it is not good for you or your baby.
I can relate to your experience…we were TTC for 4 1/2 years and had 2 early losses. When we got this BFP, I was a nervous wreck…TBH, I’m still nervous that something will go wrong, even though I’m days away from entering the 3rd trimester!! Every ache and pain, I was afraid it was going to be due to MC. I had one bout of spotting at around 13 weeks, and thought baby was going to leave us for sure, but no. I was afraid of that first ultrasound…that there would be no heartbeat, but there was. I still wasn’t reassured (mainly because the sonogram was done so quickly and coldly that I didn’t even get to SEE the heart beating! The sonographer just said it was….)
You’re not ‘over-reacting’ as such…you’ve just been through a lot and it’s hard to JUST see the miracle when you’ve had so much heartache! Just take it a day at a time…an hour at a time…even a moment at a time. I know you will probably check for blood at every trip to the bathroom (I still am!) and you will panic if you cramp ‘too much’ (even though you probably know that cramping is normal in PGcy). You will probably freak out when it comes time for a sonogram, fearing the worst…but hopefully the worst won’t happent this time!!
Praying you have a healthy PGcy just as I am having! TRY not to put too much stress on yourself over worrying what you cannot control..just hang in there! Hopefully you’ll find some reassurance in seeing baby’s heartbeat and feeling those first kicks, etc, and have a very uneventful (but fun!) 9 months ahead of you!
Whatever will be, will be. I have been thinking this way too. I was the same as you… panic attacks, the worst nightmares about miscarrying you could imagine, vomiting just because I was so stressed out.. etc.
I will be praying for you and hope that you do get past these next 40 weeks without trouble. I’m sure God is on your side now.
Best of luck with you. Don’t stress out just enjoy the fact that you became pregnant. Whatever will be will be. I’m completely sure it’ll be a positive outcome.
The only way to stop worrying, is to see your doctor, he or she will give you the tools to have a happy and healthy pregnancy with this one, and to keep your calm, you really need to stay calm, and not think about the past, but the future, see your doctor and talk to your doctor to put your mind at easeā„
I know it is hard not to worry about every little cramp! I had a miscarriage last year too, and I’m 25 weeks pregnant now, and I was the same in the earlier stages of this pregnancy.
Ask your doctor/obst. to arrange an early scan if you can – this helps to alleviate some of the worry. There is no reason to expect that you will miscarry again either. Remember that it is natural to feel menstrual like cramps in early pregnancy (when the embryo is implanting into the wall of the uterus then burrowing in) and then cramps later on when everything starts to streeetch! You only need worry if you start to bleed or have very painful cramping. Otherwise, try and relax as much as possible and enjoy the experience. Congratulations!
Ugh, I’m sorry to say that paranoia is a regular state for pregnant women. Congratulations on your pregnancy, and take some solace in knowing that you are not alone. Pretty much every pregnant woman I know has obsessed and freaked out over every twinge or lack of symptom–pretty much EVERYTHING–in her pregnancy. And the internet is the worst, because pretty much every symptom you google either means you’re totally fine and normal OR you’re miscarrying.
I hope this pregnancy is healthy and happy for you. The best thing I can tell you (and I know this is a long way off!) is that when you start to feel the baby kick, it is a HUGE relief. You don’t stop worrying altogether, but getting that reassuring nudge from your belly helps ease the paranoia a LOT.
I know you feel like you’re overreacting, and you probably are, but I was the same way, and so were most of my friends, and that was without trying for five years and a miscarriage. So, welcome to the crazy club of pregnancy! And I hope your pregnancy is healthy and happy.